LOVE nowadays is hard to define. Rather, hard to distinguish for that matter. How do people get romantically involved these days? We are now living in a fast-paced life, and as the years goes by, the faster it gets. People rarely have the chance to find the right person, their ideal companion. With so little time we have, people tend to do things quickly. Everything has to be done in an instant.

Way back then, life is in a steady mode where courtship really is a big deal. Compare that today, and you probably have less to count on how many guys who still values courtship. Technology for one is one of the biggest influence in the society today. Technology made things easy, saves time and hassle-free. The effect of technology with relationships has a big impact. People use community websites, networking sites to find love interests, or so that's what they'd like to call it. People actually think that they could find love in cyberspace. I'm not saying that they can't but there's really a lot to risk with that. By having that kind of mentality, you can see that people are becoming more and more open-minded with opportunities and possibilities.

Filipinos are known to be true-blue romantics, just take it on the side of harana and on how a filipino really courts his love interest in a traditional manner. They really go through certain stages of courtship just to prove to the girl and her family that he is deserving. That's what makes the relationship more meaningful and at the same time it has its own benefits. What are the benefits you may ask? People get to know each other more and not just know the person in a shallow level. One thing why a relationship fails is because they never get to meet each others' expectations. When you rarely know one another, you fall into this "shallow love" at first which is what we call "infatuation". There's nothing wrong with being infatuated, it's part of the process of liking someone and eventually will turn into a deeper feeling which we can now call love.

When happens the time when you get to take out the layers of one another, some tend to get disappointed because they are now seeing the true person that he/she really is. When you don't try to accept the person for what he/she really is, that's when frequent quarelling happens and eventually will lead to a break-up, mostly a messy one.

That is one down-fall to what's been happening nowadays when it comes to building up a relationship. But i'm not saying that's applicable to everyone. Of course there are some lucky ones who giddily worships technology and are very thankful that it even exists in the first place. Not all people are the same, so not all situations are the same. It always depends on the person and how he/she thinks, and on their attitudes and outlook in life.